Haunted by Regret

A cheerful heart is good medicine but a crushed spirit dries up the bones

– Proverbs 17:22

Your greatest regret at the end of your life will be the lions you didn’t chase. You will look back longingly on risks not taken, opportunities not seized, and dreams not pursued. Stop running away from what scares you most and start chasing the God-ordained opportunities that cross your path.

– Mark Batterson

Issues with Regret

Regret flows through moments lost
Regret rises from missed opportunities
Regret reminds us of mistakes made
Regret floats in memories unforgotten
Regret moves in misspoken words

The Process of Regret

Regret is being sorry mentally
Remorse is being sorry mentally and emotionally
Repentance is being sorry mentally, emotionally and spiritually

How Does Regret Haunt Us?

Regret can imprison the soul
Regret can inactivate the spirit
Regret can immobilize the heart

Even if I caused you sorrow by my letter, I do not regret it. Though I did regret it–I see that my letter hurt you, but only for a little while– yet now I am happy, not because you were made sorry, but because your sorrow led you to repentance. For you became sorrowful as God intended and so were not harmed in any way by us. Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern, what readiness to see justice done. At every point you have proved yourselves to be innocent in this matter. So even though I wrote to you, it was not on account of the one who did the wrong or of the injured party, but rather that before God you could see for yourselves how devoted to us you are.

– 2 Corinthians 7:8-12

Self-Centered Regret (Judas)

Self-centered regret leads to depression
Self-centered regret leads to despair
Self-centered regret leads to defeat
Self-centered regret leads to destruction

God Centered Regret (Peter)

God focused regret starts with admission
God focused regret leads to awareness
God centered regret moves us to action
God centered regret requires adjustments

How do we break free from the haunting of regret?

Focus on Jesus
Forge new faith
Forgive yourself
Pursue the future